The Starfish Story

9 Cool Facts About Starfish

Starfish (A poem by Mary Oliver)

In the sea rocks,
in the stone pockets
under the tide’s lip,
in water dense as blindness

they slid
like sponges,
like too many thumbs.
I knew this, and what I wanted

was to draw my hands back
from the water – what I wanted
was to be willing
to be afraid.

But I stayed there,
I crouched on the stone wall
while the sea poured its harsh song
through the sluices,

while I waited for the gritty lightning
of their touch, while I stared
down through the tide’s leaving
where sometimes I could see them –

their stubborn flesh
lounging on my knuckles.
What good does it do
to lie all day in the sun

loving what is easy?
it never grew easy,
but at last I grew peaceful:
all summer

my fear diminished
as they bloomed through the water
like flowers, like flecks
of an uncertain dream,

while I lay on the rocks, reaching
into the darkness, learning
little by little to love
our only world.

With so many seemingly intractable problems in the world, it’s fair to ask if one person can really make a difference? Are you asking that of yourself? Is that holding you back from making the change you want to make?

Consider “The Starfish Story” (adapted from the original by Loren Eiseley below)…

“Once upon a time, there was a wise man who used to go to the ocean to do his writing. He had a habit of walking on the beach before he began his work.

One day, as he was walking along the shore, he looked down the beach and saw a human figure moving like a dancer. He smiled to himself at the thought of someone who would dance to the day, and so, he walked faster to catch up.

As he got closer, he noticed that the figure was that of a young woman, and that what she was doing was not dancing at all. The young woman was reaching down to the shore, picking up small objects, and throwing them into the ocean.

He came closer still and called out “Good morning! May I ask what it is that you are doing?”

The young woman paused, looked up, and replied “Throwing starfish into the ocean.”

“I must ask, then, why are you throwing starfish into the ocean?” asked the somewhat startled wise man.

To this, the young woman replied, “The sun is up and the tide is going out. If I don’t throw them in, they’ll die.”

Upon hearing this, the wise man commented, “But do you not realize that there are miles and miles of beach and there are starfish all along every mile? You can’t possibly make a difference!”

At this, the young woman bent down, picked up yet another starfish, and threw it into the ocean. As it met the water, she said, “It made a difference for that one.”

Endpoint?

“The arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends toward justice.” -Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

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Perhaps the project you’re trying to manifest, the change you’re trying to make, doesn’t have an endpoint in sight. You’re worried about the long slog ahead. “Is this worth it?”

Just begin. Trust that if you’re intentions are pure, the endpoint will eventually reveal itself. And even if you’re not around to see it, others will be inspired by your actions. They’ll step up and carry your work forward.

Having A Rooting Spirit

I was performing in a play, a total passion project, and in the audience that night was one of my acting heroes. As a matter of fact, he’d originated the role I was playing. (No pressure, right?)

What I’ll never forget is that the entire time, he sat on the edge of his seat, totally absorbed and invested in the show. I could feel him rooting all of us on. He had a big smile on his face, his eyes were wide open as they ping-ponged back and forth on the action. It was almost child-like. He was all in.

Let me tell you, that energy and presence made such a difference to us on stage. Afterwards, he stuck around for hours talking to the cast, asking questions, taking a genuine interest in every aspect of the production. It made for a great, great night.

When we’re all back in the theatre again, and we will be soon, let us all be that awesome audience member. Let us love and be grateful just to be there. Witnessing the miracle of live theatre. Let us embody and have that rooting spirit in our hearts. Trust me, it will make all the difference to those actors on stage who are baring their soul. Which will then translate to everyone having a greater experience of the show that night.

Arbiters

No doubt, there’s been an explosion of content with no let up in sight. There are over 300 different streaming services right now. You heard that right. 300. Yet as this same article mentions, nearly 50% of people surveyed reported dissatisfaction. Chief among their reasons were “the decentralized nature of all those choices.”

Do we really need more content and more providers?

Or just better arbiters?

Right Now

Hey! It’s your tomorrow
(Right now)
Come on, it’s everything
(Right now)
Catch your magic moment
Do it right here and now
It means everything

-Van Halen, “Right Now”

In case you had any doubt…

You’re right where you’re supposed to be. Doing right what you’re supposed to do. You’re on the right path. In the right place. It’s exactly the right time. You have all the right skills. All the right knowledge. All the right contacts. Everything you’ve done was to get you right here.

Now that we’ve got that straight, what are you gonna do right now?

“Stand Up If You’re Here Tonight”

That’s the title of a brand new play written by my friend and uber-talented playwright, John Kolvenbach. This past Friday I attended a reading of it at a theatre space in Los Angeles. There were about 20 of us (all masked and socially distanced) and the night was nothing short of magical. It marked the first time I’d seen anything live in over a year. The play is so timely as it’s all about experiencing that communal feeling again. Dropping in to it. John’s writing is so, so good. It just crackles and the acting was spectacular. The audience energy was real and palpable.

It’s one thing to try and remember what it’s like to see great live theatre. It’s a whole other thing to experience it again. Everything about it–the preshow banter, being with friends, finding your seats, ambient street noise, the collective emotion and intelligence of the audience, silence, breathing in and out, watching great actors in the flesh, hearing great language, meeting new people afterwards, etc…, all of it. I was overcome with emotion as I had that feeling of “Oh yeah. That’s what it like. That’s why I do this and love this art form so much.”

I can’t wait for you to experience it again too. Hang on. We’re almost there…

Know What You’re Trying For

“The way someone else perceives what you do is a result of their own experiences (which you can’t control), their own preferences (which you can’t predict), and their own expectations (which you don’t set). If your choices don’t match their expectations that is their concern, not yours.” -James Clear

Are you trying to write a book? Or the next Great American Novel?

Are you making a movie? Or trying to stand on the shoulders of Citizen Kane?

Are you painting a picture? Or conjuring up a masterpiece?

(You see where I am going with this…)

Only you know the answer. And everything has its merit. Don’t be influenced by what someone else says or does or worse, tells you what you should or shouldn’t do. Per Emily Dickinson, “The heart wants what it wants– or else it does not care.”

But it’s important to know what exactly you’re trying for. To define it. As that will dictate how much effort, how much risk, how much time and how much cost to your soul it’s gonna take to make it happen.

Head Or Gut?

The Last Boy Scout

Remember the 1991, Tony Scott film “The Last Boy Scout?” It’s flawed but kinda awesome too and has attained “cult classic” status. In it, Bruce Willis plays Joe Hallenbeck, a formerly decorated but then disgraced Secret Service agent, who’s now barely getting by as a private investigator. He ends up getting paired on a case with LA Stallions quarterback Jimmy Dix, played by Damon Wayans. If you haven’t seen, give it a watch. You’ll enjoy it.

A recurring sequence in the film is Joe confronting various people he’s mad at and asking them if they want to be punched in the head or the gut. Like this clip where Joe confronts his friend for sleeping with Joe’s wife. It’s Joe’s simple way of squaring things with those who’ve wronged him.

For some reason–don’t ask me why–I connected this sequence to making and receiving art. The question to ask:

Do you want to reach people in their heads or their guts?

Ideally it’s both, but if I had to choose one, I’d pick the gut. I want people to be emotionally moved and rattled and entertained first. That has to be there for me. Then, hopefully, they think about it afterwards.

And while you can’t control how your art is received, the answer to this question might reveal what kind of art you make. As well as how you manifest it; meaning the style, direction, design choices, etc…

So what it’s gonna be? Head or gut?