Follow Your Enthusiasm

“There is no path to greatness without hard work. And the only person who feels like working hard for years is someone who is excited about the task. You only get one life and you’re going to burn the days either way, so the real question is: What excites you and interests you? What makes you feel curious and alive, perhaps even joyful? What is so “worth it” that you’re not worried about the tradeoffs, the hard work, the hassle? Follow your enthusiasm.” -James Clear

“Discipline can get you through bad days, but if it’s getting you through months, you’re going to burn out.” -Shane Parrish

“Enthusiasm is one of the most powerful engines of success. When you do a thing, do it with all your might. Put your whole soul into it. Stamp it with your own personality. Be active, be energetic, be enthusiastic and faithful, and you will accomplish your object. Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm.” -Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Every memorable act in the history of the world is a triumph of enthusiasm. Nothing great was ever achieved without it because it gives any challenge or any occupation, no matter how frightening or difficult, a new meaning. Without enthusiasm you are doomed to a life of mediocrity, but with it you can accomplish miracles.” -Og Mandino

All you really need to be happy is something to be enthusiastic about. If you have it, cherish it. For it’s worth more than all the gold in the world.

If you don’t, keep looking. You’ll find it. (And while you’re looking, be enthusiastic for someone else. Your enthusiasm for their passion is also priceless.)

Lose Control

“The chief task in life is simply this: to identify and separate matters so that I can say clearly to myself which are externals not under my control, and which have to do with the choices I actually control. Where then do I look for good and evil? Not to uncontrollable externals, but within myself to the choices that are my own.” -Epictetus

“God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.” -Serenity Prayer

Do you want to improve the world?
I don’t think it can be done.

The world is sacred.
It can’t be improved.
If you tamper with it, you’ll ruin it.
If you treat it like an object, you’ll lose it.

The Master sees things as they are,
without trying to control them.
She lets them go their own way,
and resides at the center of the circle. -excerpt from Verse 29, “Tai Te Ching” by Lao Tzu (Stephen Mitchell translation)

The only way to gain control is to lose control.

And if you’re at all worried about letting go, realize that you’ve never really been in control. You just were foolish to think you were. Enlightenment just means waking up to this. Carry on.

Seek Out Personal Effort

“Happiness is the consequence of personal effort.” -Elizabeth Gilbert

“Success is peace of mind which is a direct result of self-satisfaction in knowing you did your best to become the best you are capable of becoming.” -John Wooden

“I want to be thoroughly used up when I die, for the harder I work, the more I live. I rejoice in life for its own sake. Life is no ‘brief candle’ to me. It is sort of a splendid torch which I have a hold of for the moment, and I want to make it burn as brightly as possible before handing it over to future generations.” -George Bernard Shaw

You can try the best you can
You can try the best you can
The best you can is good enough
You can try the best you can
You can try the best you can
The best you can is good enough -song “Optimistic” by Radiohead

“You shall eat the fruit of the labor of your hands;
You shall be happy, and it shall go well with you.” -Psalm 128: 1-2

You won’t find happiness (or inner peace or joy) by seeking those things out directly.

Instead seek out personal effort. Strive to do your best towards something you care deeply about.

When you do, happiness and joy and peace and all other good fruits will flow your way.

Theatre As Therapy

“We must all do theatre, to find out who we are, and to discover who we could become.” -Augusto Boal

“The theatre is a place where one has time for the problems of people to whom one would show the door if they came to one’s office for a job.” -Tennessee Williams

“I regard the theater as the greatest of all art forms, the most immediate way in which a human being can share with another the sense of what it is to be a human being.” -Thornton Wilder

If you’re trepidatious about therapy, why not try theatre.

It just might be the greatest therapy in the world.

P.S. – Thanks Suse for inspiring this post on yesterday’s Vs. “Bring Your Art” Night.

You’re Still Here

“We suffer more in imagination than in reality.” -Seneca

“I am an old man and have known a great many troubles, but most of them never happened.” -Mark Twain

“All things are so very uncertain, and that’s exactly what makes me feel reassured,” -Tove Jansson

“This is the paradox we live with: We crave certainty, only to discover over and over that it is a mirage, that the love of life is rooted in the courage of uncertainty — because certainty doesn’t allow for surprise, but everything we know of life is the product of the wildest bet that prevailed against the odds of otherwise so we may exist; because certainty thrives on clear category and neat classification, but the most meaningful experiences we have inhabit the liminal spaces between the common categories of what we can name.” -Maria Popova

One way to deal with uncertainty is to fully embrace it with all your heart. Lean into it. Love it.

And if you need support for your decision to lean in, just remember, you’ve survived every single thing you thought you couldn’t handle up until this point.

You’re still here.

Why would the next hard or uncertain thing be any different?

Developing Taste

Taste is talent. And like any talent, you need to develop it.

How to do this?

First, figure out what art you really love and why. What about it really speaks to you? What moves you? Perhaps keep a simple “artistic journal” where you can write down your thoughts about the art you just consumed.

Then, after you’ve compiled your thoughts, share your love for that art. You can write a blog or social media post about it, or even just call a couple of friends and tell them about it. In the process, be prepared for some people to disagree with you. Great! This is a gift. Get curious with their reasons. See if your perspective deepens or changes. Actively seek out more criticism. Read reviews. But do it all after you’ve already shared your original opinion about the art.

Do this over and over again and your taste will develop.

(P.S. – By sharing your love of the art, you’re also doing a very generous thing for the artist(s). Word of mouth is the most valuable marketing and is needed now more than ever.)

Asking For What You Want

“We need to ask for help, ask for the sale, ask for introductions, and the list goes on and on, and it’s very possible that the idea of asking my give you some anxiety…It’s easy to see our asks as an inconvenience to someone else, especially if someone asked something of us that felt like an inconvenience, but most of the time the people in our lives are happy to help us and don’t see us as a bother at all. I’d even posit that if you’re worried about being a bother, you’re probably not a bother at all because the people who really bother you never give the idea of bothering you a second thought. So take some time to look at whether or not you’re worrying needlessly and get that ask out the door.” -Michael Roderick

“There are a million reasons why people don’t ask for what they want. It’s uncomfortable, or they don’t want to be seen as a burden, or they’re afraid of rejection. The list goes on. But I think the biggest reason is that asking means you might find information you don’t like…When you make the ask, you risk learning that your imaginary version isn’t real. And most people would rather hold on to a fantasy than test it out to see if it’s true.” -Justin Welsh

“A person’s success in life can usually be measured by the number of uncomfortable conversations he or she is willing to have.” -Tim Ferriss

Once you really know what you want and why you want it, chances are that you’re going to need to ask a lot of people for help.

Asking is never easy, but it is necessary. Some tips that might aid your asking:

(1) Be clear and specific with your ask. Know exactly how the person can help you or your cause.

(2) Ask now. Don’t wait. And don’t worry if you haven’t done some certain number of favors for that person person. There’s no magic reciprocity number that you have to hit before you make the ask. Ask now.

(3) Remind yourself that most people want to help. Including you! There’s actually a chemical release of endorphins when we do good things for others. (Interestingly enough, we don’t get that same endorphin release from asking. Which might explain why we don’t ask.)

(4) Detach from the result of your ask. The ask itself is the win. If the person doesn’t get back to you or can’t help, no sweat. Don’t take it personally and don’t hold it against them. Have empathy for people’s time and circumstances.

(5) It’s a numbers game. You’re gonna have to make a lot of asks. (Which might help you with number four.)

(6) If you’re in a position to help someone else, please help them.

Remember, if you don’t ask, you don’t get. The result you’re looking for could be one ask away. How tragic if you’re too afraid to ask for it.

P.S. – This post from Justin Welsh.

Be Happy Now

Here’s a little song I wrote
You might want to sing it note for note
Don’t worry
Be happy
In every life we have some trouble
But when you worry you make it double
Don’t worry
Be happy now. -song “Don’t Worry, Be Happy” by Bobby McFerrin

“There is no way to happiness, happiness is the way.” -Thich Nhat Hanh

“You could leave life right now. Let that determine what you do and say and think.” -Marcus Aurelius, Meditations

“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” -Viktor Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning

Choose now to be happy.

Because now is all you can count on to choose to be happy.

So be happy now.

Listen Like You’re Hitchhiking

For the actor…

Having trouble listening in a scene?…Pretend like you’re hitchhiking on a dark night on a desolate road. You’re thirsty and starving and your feet are aching from walking all day. Because no one offered to give you a lift. You’re exhausted.

A dirty semi-truck pulls over and the driver tells you to hop in. He’s friendly, but a little scary-looking too. Your instincts tell you not to get in, but you do so anyway. Because you’re so damn tired. You climb into the cab and start driving off.

How would you listen to the driver under these circumstances?

Now go put that back into your scene.

P.S. – This post was inspired by a post Vs. show conversation with John Hawkes. An exceptional actor and listener.