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How many times have you heard someone say
If I had his money I’d do things my way
Hmm, but little they know
Hmm, it’s so hard to find
One rich man in ten with a satisfied mind

Hmm, once I was wading in fortune and fame
Everything that I dreamed of to get a start in life’s game
But suddenly it happened
Hmm, I lost every dime
But I’m richer by far with a satisfied mind

Hmm, when my life is over and my time has run out
My friends and my love ones
I’ll leave there’s no doubt
But one thing for certain
When it comes my time
I’ll leave this old world with a satisfied mind -song “A Satisfied Mind”, originally written by Joe “Red” Hayes and Jack Rhodes

“When we upgrade something in our lives, the thing we used to be satisfied with is no longer satisfying. That’s the nature of an upgrade. After a certain point, the only thing we’re buying is the way the upgrade makes us feel in the moment, not our satisfaction going forward. At some point, the best upgrade is the realization that we have enough.”

“Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.” -Epictetus

All the money, fame, success, pleasure and power in the world doesn’t hold a candle to having a satisfied mind.

Kurt Vonnegut knew the secret when he talked to F. Scott Fitzgerald. It was…

…knowing that he had enough.

P.S. – The song “A Satisfied Mind” is one of the most covered songs in music history, but the Jeff Buckley version is my all-time favorite. It is truly sublime. Click Here to listen.

“What is the ONE thing you could do right now such that by doing it, everything else would be easier or unnecessary?” -Gary Keller

Gary Keller’s advice above is great, but don’t let it paralyze you from starting.

Just pick a task, any task, and go COMPLETE it.

Do this again and again. Day in and day out.

Eventually you fill figure out the exact, right, one thing. But not before you complete a whole bunch of other things.

“There is no greater mystery than this, that we keep seeking reality though in fact we are reality. We think that there is something hiding reality and that this must be destroyed before reality is gained. How ridiculous! A day will dawn when you will laugh at all your past efforts. That which will be the day you laugh is also here and now.” -Ramana Maharshi

The reality is…you are reality. Here and now.

You’d be wise to remember this at all times.

“Patience is not simply the ability to wait – it’s how we behave while we’re waiting.” -Joyce Meyer

“Let’s go.”
“We can’t.”
“Why not?”
“We’re waiting for Godot.” -Samuel Beckett

“Day after day, as we wait for the things we desire, we become different people. In the act of waiting, we become who we are. Waiting points to our desires and hopes for the future; and while that future may never arrive and our hopes may never be fulfilled, the act of reflecting on waiting teaches us about ourselves. The meaning of life isn’t deferred until that thing we hope for arrives; instead, in the moment of waiting, meaning is located in our ability to recognize the ways that such hopes define us.” -Jason Farman, Delayed Response: The Art of Waiting from the Ancient to the Instant World

“All of humanity’s problems stem from man’s inability to sit quietly in a room alone.” -Blaise Pascal

“Do you have the patience to wait until your mud settles and the water is clear?” -Lao Tzu

According to MIT Professor Richard Larson, sometimes called “Dr. Queue“, Americans spend roughly 37 billion hours each year waiting in line. That works out to about two to three years of the average person’s lifetime. That’s a whole heckuva lot of time, and behooves us to learn to wait well. So how to do it?

Resist the urge to fill up every moment with some sort of productive time or dopamine rush. Put the phone down.

Instead, allow your mind to just notice and appreciate your surroundings. Be still. It’s not only okay to be bored, it’s actually really beneficial for you.

It might not feel like it in the moment, but the better you can wait, the better you will feel and be. And more often than not, the creative breakthrough you seek lies at the end other end of your stillness.

P.S. – This excellent Marginalian post.

“Why do we love our writing teachers so much? Why, years later, do we think of them with such gratitude? I think it’s because they come along when we need them most, when we are young and vulnerable and are tentatively approaching this craft that our culture doesn’t have much respect for, but which we are beginning to love. They have so much power. They could mock us, disregard us, use us to prop themselves up. But our teachers, if they are good, instead do something almost holy, which we never forget: they take us seriously. They accept us as new members of the guild. They tolerate the under-wonderful stories we write, the dopy things we say, our shaky-legged aesthetic theories, our posturing, because they have been there themselves.” -George Saunders, author and Professor, from his essay “My Writing Education,” The New Yorker

“If you can’t explain an idea to an 8 year old, you don’t understand it…If you want to understand something better, teach it.” -Richard Feynman, Nobel Prize-winning Physicist and Professor

“Learning is a lifelong process. While we teach, we learn.” -Seneca

The idiom “those who can’t do, teach” originated from George Bernard Shaw in his play Man and Superman. It was originally intended as a cynical jab at political revolutionaries rather than an attack on educators. Over time, it morphed into a popular, often derogatory, stereotype suggesting that teachers are simply people who failed at their primary vocational goals. Which is so not true.

Interestingly enough, the original maxim goes all the way back to Aristotle which reads, “Those who know, do. Those who understand, teach.” In other words: Only those who truly understand complex ideas can break them down for others to understand.

Wanna know if you really grasp the fundamentals? Wanna get better at your craft?

Try teaching it. There’s no better test than that.

“Reinvention is a verb-created phenomenon. You don’t experience a reinvention. You reinvent. You don’t think your way into a new life. You don’t manifest it into reality. You don’t dream it. You act it into reality.” -Sahil Bloom

“You cannot think your way into a new life; you have to build your way into it. Drop the heavy blueprints, build a low-stakes prototype, and step into the future you want to experience…A prototype isn’t a commitment; it’s a conversation with your future self. Try stuff, gather the data, and let the real world guide your next move. Your life is always a work in progress.” –Designing Your Life by Bill Burnett and Dave Evans

I love this post about reinventing from Sahil Bloom.

If you’re seeking to make a big change in your life but feeling anxious about doing so, why not split the difference? Before outright quitting, try out the new thing. Take it for a test drive.

As Sahil advises, set a goal of 30 minutes a day for 30 days in a row of doing the new thing. Take action on it.

Depending on your desired change, this could involve things like:

-Having casual learning conversations with people who are doing the new thing you’re interested in.

-Having conversations with trusted friends and/or family members.

-Attending industry or networking events.

-Reading books or articles about your new field

-Reaching out to potential clients for your new business idea.

-Building your website or a simple landing page for your product/service offering.

-Writing a strategic or business plan, including budget and financial projections.

If 30 minutes for 30 days is too daunting, do 20 for 20. The point is, make a commitment to trying out your desired change (aka “prototyping“) and then do it.

You’ll either find out that you love the new thing and then be much more ready to go all in on it. Or, you’ll find you don’t love the new thing as much as you thought you did. You’ll stick with what you were doing, yet work to find something else.

And if you can’t or are unwilling to commit to trying out the new thing?…Well, now you know you’re not ready or it’s not the right thing.

“You cannot sell to someone unless you know who they are and what they want.” -Turney Duff

My friend Turney tells a great story on IG about selling. You can find it Here. And be sure to check out all his posts. They are chock full of phenomenal advice, especially for a young person trying to find their way in the world.

If you know exactly what you’re selling AND why it’s important AND exactly who you are selling to AND what they might want, then you can even sell sand to someone in the desert.

If you don’t know the above yet, start by finding your minimum viable audience. Which, per Seth Godin is “The smallest group that could possibly sustain you in your work.”

They will.

If.

You know specifically, who they are.

And.

You know specifically what you are building.

Yes, Roy Kinsella took a huge leap of faith. And didn’t really know why other than a strong voice telling him to.

But, he did know he was building a baseball field for baseball players to play on it.

Before building it, ask yourself, who’s it for and what’s it for?

Then you can leap.

“The vacuum of excitement and the sadness in the creative adventure is also a gift. It shows you that you’ve found something that unlocks a deeper part of you…the part that is willing to get sad. Of course it hurts. But there’s a lot of people walking around not doing anything they care enough about to be sad and frustrated when it doesn’t go to plan.” -Gabe Andersen

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breathe a word about your loss. -poem If by Rudyard Kipling

You busted your ass getting ready for the audition.

You spent countless hours preparing the pitch.

You planned the perfect event.

You trained like a demon and went all out in the race.

All that time.

All that energy.

All that work.

All that sacrifice.

But you didn’t get the job.

They didn’t like the pitch.

No one showed up to the party.

You lost the race.

Things didn’t go the way you hoped.

And I know. It stings. It hurts. A lot.

But damnit, you tried. You put yourself out there. And what a gift you had. To be able to want something and then go for it. So many people don’t get this gift. They don’t have anything they care enough about to risk. To go all out like you just did.

Take a moment to be sad. To grieve.

And then go find the next meaningful thing to care about.

If you can do that again and again and again, then you will have one helluva good life.

“Sorrow can be alleviated by good sleep.” –Saint Thomas Aquinas

“By helping us keep the world in perspective, sleep gives us a chance to refocus on the essence of who we are. And in that place of connection, it is easier for the fears and concerns of the world to drop away.” –Arianna Huffington

“We are such stuff as dreams are made on; and our little life is rounded with a sleep.” –William Shakespeare

“Having peace, happiness, and healthiness is my definition of beauty. And you can’t have any of that without sleep.” –Beyonce

The single best cure for your problems is a good night’s sleep.

When you wake up rested, more often than not, you will realize your problems weren’t really problems. Certainly not as monumental as you thought the day before.

Or, you will now have the energy, clarity and focus to deal with these problems effectively.

Either way, put the phone down, stop the worrying, and go to sleep.

Your mind and body will thank you in the morning.

P.S.- Also be sure to consult this self-care checklist.