Yes, this ancient proverb (From the Latin…”Potiusque sero quam nunquam….The historian Livius first recorded in 27 BC) is true. It is better to accomplish a goal or arrive at your destination late than never at all.
But the proverb is not an excuse to turn in lazy or careless work.
If that’s the case, then you’re “better never than ever.”
“You’ve got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don’t settle…
Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” -Steve Jobs
“Plan your future in detail. Imagine it. Break it into goals. Make them tangible. Write them out. Now, pick the 3 most important goals and break them into timelines: 10 years, 1 year, 1 month, 1 week, and 1 day. Every night, look at what progress you made toward these 3 goals and write down the one thing you can do tomorrow to make progress toward each. Repeat. Goals set direction, but only execution moves you closer.” -Shane Parrish
It’s hard enough to achieve your goals amidst all the inevitable obstacles that will come your way.
It’s impossible to achieve other people’s or society’s goals that they have for you.
What do you want to do?
Why do you want to do it?
Take as much time as you need to figure out the answer to these two questions. Get clear.
Then, set specific and tangible goals. That way you can see the fruits of your efforts pay off, even if just a little bit. Incremental progress will keep you going.
“You’re one pitch away!” the coach exhorts from the dugout.
Okay, so you’ve walked three batters. Bases are loaded. (You do have one out though.) You’re struggling with your control on this next batter.
Stop.
Walk around the mound.
Deep breath.
Gather your composure.
Reset.
And remind yourself that as bad as this inning started, you’re one pitch away from ending it. (You can get the batter to ground into a double play ball.)
Nothing that came before matters.
All that matters is what you do on this next pitch.
Believe in yourself.
You can do it.
“You’re one pitch away!”
Go do it.
(Of course, this baseball metaphor applies to all of life.)
“We suffer more in imagination than in reality.” -Seneca
The task is the task.
Don’t make it any more than what it is by thinking about how much you don’t want to do it. Or why you have to do it. Or how arduous and long it’s gonna take.
Just start doing it.
Almost always you’ll find the actual task wasn’t all that bad. You might even enjoy it. Especially if you can be completely present and give yourself fully to it.
“In an information-rich world, the wealth of information means a dearth of something else: a scarcity of whatever it is that information consumes. What information consumes is rather obvious: it consumes the attention of its recipients. Hence a wealth of information creates a poverty of attention and a need to allocate that attention efficiently among the overabundance of information sources that might consume it.” -Herbert A. Simon, Nobel Prize-Winning Economist
Stop trying to optimize and maximize every single area of your life. You will drown in a sea of choice and indecision. Which will lead to unhappiness.
Instead, satisfy.
Know your priorities and order your values. Separate the essential from the non essential. Do a bit of research if you must.
If you enjoy the play the first time you see it, then go see it again (and bring a friend).
Not only will your support mean a whole heckuva lot for the artists and theatre company, but you yourself, will enjoy the show that much more. You’ll notice and appreciate things you didn’t catch the first time out. Everything from story beats to design elements to subtle nuances in the actors’ performances.
Speaking of which, I saw Ironbound again last night. I loved it on opening night (post show photo above), but I loved it even more two weeks later. There are three performances left and one of those is sold out (Sunday closing). If you haven’t seen it, go see it Thursday or S. Click Here for tix/info. Use discount code “VS” for $25 tix. And if you’ve already seen it, go see it again. You’ll love it that much more!
P.S. – Shout out to JJ and Cindy for seeing it twice including our “Vs. Live” outing yesterday.
“The biggest myth about creativity is that it needs freedom. It doesn’t. It needs constraints.” -David Epstein, Inside the Box: How Constraints Make Us Better
“Constraints breed resourcefulness: The highest form of creativity is found by improvising within a set of restrictions.” -Ryan Holiday, The Obstacle Is The Way
“I don’t need time. What I need is a deadline.” -Duke Ellington
“A goal is a dream with a deadline.” -Napoleon Hill
“Freedom is the freedom to choose your constraints. Not the freedom from constraints.” -Justin Welsh
You think you want and need more time, autonomy, and choice.
You don’t.
You just need more intentional and better-designed constraints.
“Everyone has a plan until they get punched in the mouth.” -Mike Tyson
“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit,” -Aristotle
“We first make our habits, then our habits make us.” -John Dryden
You can have the greatest plans in the world, but if you don’t have good habits, there is no way those plans get executed.
Because the minute you feel a bit of pressure or life doesn’t go your way or you just don’t feel like doing something, those plans go right out the window.
And all you have left is your habits.
So before making any plans, choose (and form) good habits.
I started The Vs. Studio with this mission: “To help artists find and manifest the work they are passionate about, and to do so with excellence and generosity. For themselves, their fellow artists and the audience they seek to serve.”
Marisa Van Den Borre has been passionate about the play IRONBOUND by Martyna Majok for years. In fact, she sponsored IRONBOUND as the very first Vs. Zoom Reading back in March, 2020. It was a terrific reading and night.
Wanting to go further, Marisa took part in last year’s Vs. producing workshop. At the end of the eight weeks, her and her husband Chad performed a scene from IRONBOUND for our live invited presentation. The scene rocked and Marisa received tons of encouraging feedback.
And now, almost one year later, I am thrilled to announce that it’s turned into a full production! A dream come true for Marisa who is spectacular in it. As is Chad and the rest of the ensemble. I am so incredibly proud to see this project come to fruition and have The Vs. Studio co-produce.
IRONBOUND opened to a packed house last week and this weekend is already sold out. The reviews have been stellar including a “Top Ten” in Stage Raw. It’s a limited run so after this week, there are three remaining performances: Thursday, May 14th at 8p, Saturday, May 16th at 8p. Sunday, May 17th at 2p. At The Mandani Theater in Hollywood. There are still some seats for all three shows, but don’t wait as they will sell out. Tix/Info Here. Use discount code “VS” for $25 seats.
I sincerely hope you can come see it. Thanks in advance for doing so and way to go Marisa!
P.S. – I’m also hosting a special Vs. night and talkback about the producing process on Monday, May 11th. However that show is sold out. (And note: No Tuesday Vs. reading on May 12th. We’ll be back on Tuesday, May 19th)
P.P.S. – H/t to Chad for tweaking our original Vs. Theatre logo (originally designed by Liesel Kopp) and coming up with The Vs. Studio logo pictured above.
I’ve grown a goiter by dwelling in this den— As cats from stagnant streams in Lombardy, Or in what other land they hap to be— Which drives the belly close beneath the chin: My beard turns up to heaven: my nape falls in, Fixed on my spine: my breast-bone visibly Grows like a harp: a rich embroidery Bedews my face from brush-drops thick and thin. -excerpt from poem “On The Painting Of The Sistin Chapel” by Michelangelo
“I saw the angel in the marble and carved until I set him free.” -Michelangelo
The process, the grind, the story, the heroic feat behind the making of the art is just as revered and valued, if not more so, than the actual art itself.