The Vs. Studio Blog

They may not ever know if you tried your best, if your intentions were pure, if you behaved virtuously. Perhaps you got away with it. Or were wrongfully criticized.

But you know.

And that’s the only thing worth knowing anyway.

If you’re working for a company or organization and at the regular staff meeting the new person shows up and is brave enough to ask questions like “why exactly do we do this?” or “I’m trying to better understand…can you explain this?” or “I’m not sure I’m following…what do we do here?”, etc…honor that curiosity (even though you just want to get the meeting over with). It’s a gift. It’s a chance for you to examine your systems and processes that you don’t do, but now you have to do. in order to explain it to the new person.

And if you can’t explain it coherently or your answer is akin to “because that’s what we always do”, then that means you don’t have good systems and processes.

Thank the new person for asking the questions.

And then get to work on fixing those systems and processes.

So that way, you can explain them to the next new person at the next staff meeting.

There isn’t some magical moment where you will cross everything off your to-do list, accomplish every one of your goals, reach the highest level of success, etc…and suddenly feel like “I did it. I’ve arrived. I’m good.”

The reason?

Because all the joy is found in arriving. Not in having arrived.

Lean in to and love the process.

And when you accomplish something, find something else to do that will give you another process to fall in love with all over again.

“If we’re looking for purpose and fulfillment we need to carry weight…and creativity is an honorable weight to put on your shoulders. When we feel the hurt and pain of the weight we get to remember that what we chose is hard but it’s worth it. The goal is not to get rid of the weight. It’s to find a weight we don’t want to ditch when it gets heavy.” -Gabe Andersen

A life devoted to making art carries an especially heavy weight. But it’s worth it.

And remember, you chose this. It didn’t choose you.

Also know that we all have to carry weight at some point in our life.

It’a lot better when you get to choose. Instead of it being chosen for you.

So what’s it gonna be? Which weight will you carry?

“A writer – and, I believe, generally all persons – must think that whatever happens to him or her is a resource. All things have been given to us for a purpose, and an artist must feel this more intensely. All that happens to us, including our humiliations, our misfortunes, our embarrassments, all is given to us as raw material, as clay, so that we may shape our art.” -Jorge Luis Borges

“Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope.” -Romans 5:3-4

“Sweet are the uses of adversity,
Which, like the toad, ugly and venomous,
Wears yet a precious jewel in his head;
And this our life, exempt from public haunt,
Find tongues in trees, books in the running brooks,
Sermons in stones, and good in everything.” -William Shakespeare, As You Like It

“In some ways suffering ceases to be suffering at the moment it finds a meaning, such as the meaning of a sacrifice.” -Viktor E. Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning

No one wants to suffer.

No one knows why we suffer.

But we do get to make meaning from our suffering. That’s what makes us uniquely human.

Think of it all as clay. Use it. Shape it. Make it into a beautiful bowl that you can give someone else to help them when they suffer.

And by doing so, you give a gift to yourself too.

“When they touch down, we’ll blow up the roof, they’ll spend a month sifting through rubble, and by the time they work out what went wrong, we’ll be sitting on a beach, earning twenty percent.” -Hans Gruber, Die Hard

I’ve been in this town so long
So long to the city
I’m fit with the stuff
To ride in the rough
And sunny down snuff, I’m alright
By the heroes and
Heroes and villains
Just see what you’ve done
Heroes and villains
Just see what you’ve done -song “Heroes and Villains” by The Beach Boys

Setting morals aside, perhaps one reason we find movie villains so compelling is that they know exactly what they want, why they want it and then are willing to pursue that want at all costs.

Most of us wish we could have that kind of clarity and single-mindedness of purpose.

Well, we can.

And the good news?…We don’t need to be villainous or immoral in the process.

We just need to take some time to figure out what we want and why we want it.

And then commit to taking daily and consistent action towards achieving it.

If we do that, then we’ll be heroes.

May the good Lord shine a light on you
Make every song your favorite tune
May the good Lord shine a light on you
Warm like the evening sun -song “Shine A Light” by The Rolling Stones

One of the great and beautiful things about being a producer is you get to shine a light on projects and people that you feel are deserving.

And over time, you realize that the feeling you get from shining a light on others is so much more fulfilling than shining a light on yourself.

Either you’re all in. With your whole heart.

Or you’re not.

There’s just no in-between.

Read this phenomenal excerpt from David Whyte’s book, “Crossing the Unknown Sea: Work as a Pilgrimage of Identity.” (H/t to Billy Oppenheimer for providing.)

After years of loving the work he was doing at an environmental nonprofit, David Whyte started to burn out. On one particularly bad day at the office, “I felt as if I didn’t have an ounce of energy left to do the work I had been doing,” Whyte wrote. “I was so exhausted, so burned out, I just went home.” That night, as he often did, Whyte met up with a close friend—a Benedictine monk named Brother David Steindl-Rast—to read poetry over a couple glasses of wine. As Brother David read aloud, Whyte tried to follow along, “but I had my day on my mind, and the mind-numbing tiredness I was experiencing at work.” “Brother David?” Whyte blurted out, interrupting the reading. “Tell me about exhaustion.” Brother David studied Whyte’s face for a moment, saw both the seriousness and the exhaustion in his eyes, and replied, “You know the antidote to exhaustion is not necessarily rest?” “The antidote to exhaustion is not necessarily rest,” Whyte repeated, making sure he heard him right. “What is it then?” “The antidote to exhaustion is wholeheartedness.” Brother David was one of the few people who knew that Whyte secretly wanted to be a poet, a path he’d stepped off of years earlier in favor of a more practical, sensible, respectable one. He also knew that suppressing what you really want in life is quietly exhausting work. “You are so tired through and through,” Brother David said, “because you are only half here.” The other half is constantly, invisibly at work—day after day, year after year—consumed by the task of pushing aside your deepest desires. And the strain of keeping up that kind of divided, half-here existence “will kill you after a while,” Brother David said. “You are like Rilke’s Swan in his awkward waddling across the ground…You only have to touch the elemental waters in your life,” stepping back onto the path you know you belong on.

“Do the thing you fear and the death of fear is certain” -Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Fate whispers to the warrior, ‘You can not withstand the storm.’ The warrior whispers back, ‘I am the storm.'” -Unknown

“I was born for a storm, and a calm does not suit me.” -Andrew Jackson

It is said that buffaloes run into a storm. Cows run away from a storm.

At first glance you might think this is a metaphor about courage.

It is that, but it’s also about prudence.

You see, the cow turns away from the storm and moves with it, thus prolonging the suffering. But the buffalo, by heading into the storm, shortens its time in the storm. It gets to the other side much quicker.

When adversity hits, don’t run away. Turn and face it head on. Go right through it.

Be the buffalo.

P.S. – Speaking of storms, this scene. One of my all-time favorites!

This past Saturday, my son Callum and I attended the Lakers v. Nuggets game. It was probably the greatest NBA game I’ve ever seen live. Incredible plays, back and forth action, Crypto Arena was absolutely bonkers. It’s a memory we’ll always have together, and I’m so grateful for the experience.

For the Lakers though, it’s just another regular season game. One out of eighty-two. The next day, they had to fly to Houston and play the Rockets. As fun and special as that Nuggets game was, they had no time to linger. Gotta move on.

That’s what being a professional is all about. Whether it’s sports or theater or live music, etc…you need to bring it every single night. That’s your job.

Now the reason you should love and embrace this job?…For you, it’s just another game or show. For the fans and audience though, it may well be a night they will cherish forever.

What a gift you get to give them.

So, bring it.

Every single night.

P.S. – This clip. What a shot!