The Pursuit Of Excellence

The reason to pursue excellence is…well…to pursue excellence.

Brad Stulberg in his book The Way Of Excellence points out that biologically we are wired to do so. He uses the concept of “homeostatic upregulation” to support this claim. While standard homeostasis is an organism’s baseline drive to maintain stability and survive, homeostatic upregulation is the innate biological tendency to go beyond mere survival and actively grow, adapt, and flourish.

Stulberg argues that even the most primitive organisms do not just sit passively in their environment; they possess a sophisticated form of “sensing and responding” that forces them to seek out better conditions, optimize their functioning, and expand. In humans, this exact same ancient, biological life force is what manifests as our psychological desire to master a craft, learn a new skill, and realize our full potential. According to Stulberg, because this drive is hardwired into our biology, working against it or living a completely disengaged, passive life feels inherently unnatural and unfulfilling.

So like it or not, it’s our job, our duty, our nature to constantly pursue excellence. That’s reason enough.

How you do anything is how you do everything.

Wheel Of Fortune

If life is a wheel of fortune, then the only way to avoid fear and anxiety is not to live in the ever-changing rim, but rather, to remain in the center.

What is the center? It’s that place where no matter what happens, you always come back to and feel grounded.

Find your center and you will find your peace.

One Step

To get started, you don’t need to know how to get there or if you will ever get there.

You just need to pick a direction and then take one step in that direction. That’s it.

Once you’ve taken that step, then and only then, will you concentrate on what the next step is.

For now, focus on one step.

Step by step. That’s how anything ever gets done.

It’s also the only way to ensure you enjoy the process. Which in the end, is the only reason to try and do anything, anyway.

“I Went Slower.”

The Orson Scott Card story above reminds me of a classic Paul Newman story…I can’t recall which film or director, but supposedly after several takes, the director approached Newman, said the scene was dragging and politely asked if he could speed it up. Maybe talk faster?

Newman replied, “Sure thing.”

They went back, did the take. The director LOVED it. He came running up to Newman saying how wonderful the scene was. It was a print. They could move on. The director then asked Newman what he did to make it so riveting.

To which Newman replied, “I went slower.”

Referred Pain In The Process

For the actor…

If you’re having trouble in a particular moment or beat of a scene, chances are that’s not the actual problem.

Go back a few pages and look over your all actions again. Most likely something is amiss in one or several of the prior beats. Get that right and everything else going forward will fall into place.

Unexpected and Unconditional Love

A Part Two to yesterday’s post and a little origin story of how Sawyer came to the Clark household…

We rescued Sawyer from a kennel. He was originally bred to be a show dog for an overseas owner in Japan. During Covid, when all the dog shows were cancelled, the owner called the kennel and decided he no longer wanted Sawyer. As he had no use for him. The kennel was also closing down and the kennel owner didn’t know what to do with this dog. After talking with the kennel owner and learning all this, my wife Amy and I drove down (a few hours away) the next day. We were prepared to take Sawyer on the spot and have him become part of our family. Our kids were beyond excited.

The kennel owner informed us that Sawyer was “afraid of males.” I thought he meant other male dogs, but when we got home, Sawyer immediately clung to Amy’s side. He was afraid of me and our boys. (Apparently the training for show dogs is very rough and not kind.)

I realized that unlike other prior dogs we had, where the kids could play with and the dogs would love on them and vice versa, Sawyer was different. Every time me or the boys went to pet him, Sawyer would flee towards Amy. I realized we had to switch our mindset. This would have to be total and unconditional love. It was our duty to just be kind and take care of Sawyer with no expectation of reciprocity.

This went on for years.

Eventually (after lots of love and walks and lots and lots of treats), Sawyer softened. He’d let us hug him and pet him (reluctantly I’m sure) and he learned to trust us. (He still of course was Amy’s numero uno and followed her around like a shadow.)

All this to say that Sawyer taught us true unconditional love. And that is a lesson we will remember for the rest of our lives.

Pets are remarkable, aren’t they? What a gift. What a blessing.

Thank you Sawyer. We love you and we miss you so much.

The Full Spectrum Of Emotion

I wish it were otherwise, but you don’t get to feel all that love and joy and happiness without experiencing the sadness and grief and pain. You have to experience the full spectrum of emotion.

That’s the cost of opening your heart.

But I’ll pay that price every single time.

P.S. – R.I.P. dear Sawyer. We’ll miss you buddy so much. Thank you for all the love and joy and incredible memories you gave to our family.

Who Cares?

Nobody cares how hard you worked on the thing you made. It’s not their job to care.

They only care about the thing you made.

But you, the creator, should very much care. You owe it to them and to yourself.

If not, why even do it in the first place?

Everything Is An Audition

No matter how last minute, the actor will move heaven and earth to prepare for and make an audition appointment. Especially if it’s for a project they care about. Suddenly all tasks become secondary and in that time, nothing is more important. Talk about focus!

Imagine if you treated everything in life that way? If everything was an audition? At the very least, what about just showing up and being present in every moment and every encounter with another person?

Your whole life will change if you do.

P.S. – This fantastic IG post from my friend Turney.