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“Progress equals happiness. Even if you’re not where you want to be yet. If you’re on the road, if you’re improving, if you’re making progress, you’re gonna love it. You’re gonna feel alive.” – Tony Robbins

“The first principle is that you must not fool yourself and you are the easiest person to fool.” -Richard P. Feynman

Once you decide to do something or embark on a passion project or even start a new habit, immediately find some ways to measure your progress. Have a few simple metrics that you can compare to a prior data point. I recommend weekly, but you can do it daily if you want.

This discipline of measurement allows you to honestly assess how you’re doing. And when you measure consistently, one of two things will happen:

One…You’ll see progress. Which feels awesome and will inspire you to keep going.

Or.

Two…You won’t see progress. (Or maybe you’ll start to plateau after making some initial progress.) That’s okay. Don’t despair. It just means it’s time to mix it up. Iterate. Try a different approach or tactic. Better that than fooling yourself into thinking you’re improving. When you’re actually not.

“Expect nothing. Accept anything.” -Jerry Seinfeld

“When we just sort of focus on the small things, the big things often accidentally end up taking care of themselves.” -Paul Thomas Anderson

Speaking of letting it happen, read this great article from Billy Oppenheimer.

Perhaps the reason you’re not getting the result you want is you’re too focused on the result.

Focus on what you can control. Which is the work. Just keep doing the work. Day after day after day.

The result happens when you’re busy and having so much fun doing the actual work.

Ironically, when you’re in that groove, you could care less about the result. You just wanna get back to work.

“In public avoid talking often and excessively about your accomplishments and dangers, for however much you enjoy recounting your dangers, it’s not so pleasant for others to hear about your affairs.” -Epictetus, Enchiridion

In life as much as you can, aim to listen to others. Rather than talk about yourself. Try to connect with them.

Save your storytelling for the stage.

And if your character is telling a story, no matter how great and riveting you think it is, it better have a strong intention. Otherwise it will fall flat and we’ll check out.

Can’t come up with an intention?…When in doubt, just go for connecting to the other person. That one will never let you down.

P.S. – This scene.

“The problem with smart people is they can come up with a good reason for not doing anything. They are smart enough to find the cracks, to foresee the challenges, and to talk themselves out of the idea. They are experts at justifying their lack of courage or lack of action with an intelligent excuse. 

But there will always be reasons to not do something, and this is particularly true of anything worth doing. We value those moments in which we overcame challenge, not those in which we avoided it. Ultimately, action is a choice. The choice to emphasize the reasons for doing it despite the reasons you have for avoiding it.” -James Clear

Soon after you get really excited and lit up by an idea, you will inevitably find ways to talk yourself out of it.

Reality sets in. Obstacles surface. Naysayers reveal themselves. Life happens.

If it’s truly worth doing, then you must overcome this giant wave of resistance. And it’s a motherf-cker of a rogue wave.

Find ways to talk yourself back into it. Do so constantly. Guard this passion as if your life depends on it. It does.

“I am your teacher and you are learning in my school. My aim is to bring you to completion, unhindered, free from compulsive behavior, unrestrained, without shame, free, flourishing, and happy…Your aim is to learn and diligently practice all these things. Why then don’t you complete the work, if you have the right aim and I have both the right aim and right preparation? What is missing? . . . The work is quite feasible, and is the only thing in our power. . . . Let go of the past. We must only begin. Believe me and you will see.” -Epictetus, Discourses

It’s not about you. It’s about the work.

The work. The work. The work.

When you think this way, you are truly free. Free from ego. Free from judgment. Free from prior concepts. Free to do whatever it takes to make the work the absolute best it can be. So that it fully serves those you intend to serve.

That includes seeking out valuable and constructive criticism from those you trust. Because again, it’s not about you. It’s about the work.

Whatever WORKs, you’ll take it.

“The tragedy of an attachment is that if its object is not attained it causes unhappiness. But if it is attained, it does not cause happiness – it merely causes a flash of pleasure followed by weariness, and it is always accompanied, of course, by the anxiety that you may lose the object of your attachment.” -Anthony de Mello

If the sun refused to shine
I would still be loving you
When mountains crumble to the sea
There will still be you and me -song, “Thank You” by Led Zeppelin

A unifying theme across almost all the great spiritual traditions is the idea of detachment. Or not being attached “to the things of this world.” (John 2:15)

But detachment doesn’t come from going off into the woods and living like a hermit. Denying everything and everyone. (Although if that’s your jam, go for it.)

Detachment comes from being aware that nothing lasts. All fades away. Memento Mori.

Love it all while you still can.

“Most people are not just comfortable in their ignorance, but hostile to anyone who points it out.” -Plato, The Allegory of the Cave

“Any one who has common sense will remember that the bewilderments of the eyes are of two kinds, and arise from two causes, either from coming out of the light or from going into the light” -Plato, The Allegory of the Cave

Men are born soft and supple;
dead, they are stiff and hard.
Plants are born tender and pliant;
dead, they are brittle and dry.

Thus whoever is stiff and inflexible
is a disciple of death.
Whoever is soft and yielding
is a disciple of life.

The hard and stiff will be broken.
The soft and supple will prevail. -Verse 76, Tao Te Ching by Lao-Tzu (Stephen Mitchell translation)

When I step into the light
My arms are open wide
When I step into the light
My eyes searching wildly -song, “Lie In Our Graves” by Dave Matthews Band

What do we do when confronted with incontrovertible facts and evidence that run contrary to our prior assertions and beliefs? Or when we’re shown a new and more effective way of doing something? A way that makes things better for ourselves and the people we seek to serve.

Do we double down on our ego and ignorance? Stick with what we’ve always done? Remain in the cave.

Or are we grateful to learn something new? To be shown the light and then move towards it.

If you want to remain soft and supple and alive, then you must constantly embrace beginner’s mind.

“I saw my life branching out before me like the green fig tree in the story. From the tip of every branch, like a fat purple fig, a wonderful future beckoned and winked. One fig was a husband and a happy home and children, and another fig was a famous poet and another fig was a brilliant professor, and another fig was Ee Gee, the amazing editor, and another fig was Europe and Africa and South America, and another fig was Constantin and Socrates and Attila and a pack of other lovers with queer names and offbeat professions, and another fig was an Olympic lady crew champion, and beyond and above these figs were many more figs I couldn’t quite make out. I saw myself sitting in the crotch of this fig tree, starving to death, just because I couldn’t make up my mind which of the figs I would choose. I wanted each and every one of them, but choosing one meant losing all the rest, and, as I sat there, unable to decide, the figs began to wrinkle and go black, and, one by one, they plopped to the ground at my feet.” -Sylvia Plath, The Bell Jar

Just make a choice. Commit to something.

Otherwise, someday you’ll no longer have a choice to make.

P.S. – While you’re at it, be grateful that you’re even in a position to choose from many options.

If someone reaches out to you–particularly someone you’re close to and whose taste you trust–says “this was one of the best pieces of theatre I’ve ever seen”, then you should go see said show. Pronto. No questions asked. Just go.

Realize that when someone reaches out and urges you to see something, that person is taking a risk. They’re putting their taste on the line. Reward their vulnerability by going.

Such was the case last week when a good friend reached out about a show called Iphigenia In Splott and said it one of the best things she’d ever seen.

So, I went last Friday.

I’m so glad I did (and that she reached out).

It’s a dynamite passion project. The acting (a one person show), writing and production elements are uniformly excellent. Here’s a link for tix/info. Some of the best ten bucks you can spend. Enjoy!

Give a little bit
Oh, give a little bit of your love to me
I’ll give a little bit
I’ll give a little bit of my love to you
There’s so much that we need to share
So send a smile and show you care
(Alright) -song “Give A Little Bit” by Supertramp

We can always do a little bit more.

Thinking this way prevents complacency and makes room for humility. No matter how satisfied we are, we can always do a little bit more to make things better.

It also prevents us from feeling overwhelmed and not starting on the path to change.

We don’t need to a whole lot more. Just a little bit more. Day by day. Drip by drip. Bit by bit. That’s how anything worth doing, gets done