For anything that happens to us, anything we read or hear, anyone who evokes strong emotions in us, we’d be wise to do two things before responding.
First, bring awareness. Just be aware that we’re having that response. Notice the thoughts. Don’t judge them.
Second, bring curiosity. Get intensely curious with our feelings. Be our own emotional detectives. Say to ourselves as often as we need to…”That’s interesting.” As if we’re playing a part and trying to get into the skin of the character. Why are we feeling this way? What might be causing it? Is there something deeper going on?
“That’s interesting” is a great pattern interrupt. It stops us from going down the same, worn out, response grooves. It’s also the first step towards making any kind of lasting change.