“People who reject you or your work aren’t giving you the real reason. They’re simply inserting ‘here is where I write a few generic sentences to sound polite.’
Even if you could completely answer the objection in that rejection letter, they’re still going to reject you. That’s because the rejector isn’t here to teach you anything, and isn’t offering the objection so that you will correct it. They’re simply being nice when they say, ‘go away.’
The honest rejections would say something like, ‘my boss didn’t like you,’ or ‘I was in a bad mood,’ or ‘we realized that our spec wasn’t very clear and the person we liked didn’t fit it either,’ or “we wanted someone who looked more like us,’ or ‘your competence made us nervous,’ or…
Take what they wrote and replace it with “no.”
It’ll save a lot of time.” -Seth Godin
The best thing you can get to your request (or audition, proposal, interview, etc.) is YES.
The second best thing you can get is a NO.
Why?
Because now you can close the loop and move on.
You don’t need to look for a reason. You won’t get a satisfying one anyway. It’s a waste of time.
No is all you need.
The Vs. Studio Blog 
In Lady Windermere’s Fan Oscar Wilde famously opined: In this world there are only two tragedies. One is not getting what one wants, and the other is getting it.” But there is a follow up “The last is much the worst, the last is a real tragedy!” Oscar’s wit aside, if someone is inclined to reject you, a yes from that person would be much worse than a no. If some is inclined in your favor, why would they even consider a no? Accepting a no as good news is easier said than done. But accepting a yes from a wrong person is mistaking bad news for good. Reminds me of a joke attributed to Patrick Murray. “I was unlucky in both of my marriages. My first wife left me. And the second one didn’t.”
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