Find It By Losing It

For the actor…

Sometimes, the fastest way to “find the character” is to strip away some of the advantages or privileges you might have or even take for granted. Ask yourself what your world view would be like if you didn’t receive love from your parents. If you came from a broken home. If you lacked money, friends, education or health.

Far and away though, the biggest of these losses is love. Take away that…and it changes EVERYTHING.

P.S. – This is a useful exercise for anyone who wants to engender greater empathy for the human condition.

Thought Waves

According to a Healthline article quoting a 2020 study, a human being has on average, 6,000 thoughts per day…That’s a whole helluva lotta thinking!

Odds are not all 6,000 are positive or thoughts we’d be proud to share.

Here’s the great news:

You are not your thoughts. You are the conscious observer of your thoughts.

And.

No one is judging your thoughts. So you shouldn’t either.

Finally, perhaps some helpful advice…Just watch your thoughts come and go. Like waves in the ocean. Notice them. But don’t attach to any of them. If any thoughts are uplifting or make you feel good, collect them like sea shells. Maybe revisit them to look at later. All the rest, just let them do their thing. Good or bad, rest assured another set of waves (aka “thoughts”) are coming up right behind.

Say “No” To Say “Yes” To Your Art

In those rare moments when inspiration comes knocking, stop everything at once and answer the call. Channel it through you. Get it all down (on paper or whatever medium you work in). Stay at it for as long as it takes.

This is your shot. In order to take it, you have to say “No” to everything else right now in order to say ‘Yes” to your art.

Speaking of taking your shot…this story from Lin Manuel-Miranda…(h/t to Billy Oppenheimer for providing and inspiring this post.)

You Know Because You Care

In lieu of seeking external validation or affirmation, how then can you know if you’re on the right path? Especially when it comes to the art you’re creating, the work you’re doing or the change you’re seeking to make.

The very fact that you’re asking the question means you care. You want to be good at it.

That’s all the affirmation you need.

You’re on the right path.

Keep going.

Just take it one faithful step at a time.

“A Poem On Hope”

Some poetry for your weekend (h/t to Poetic Outlaws for this one)…

“A Poem On Hope” by Wendell Berry

It is hard to have hope. It is harder as you grow old,
for hope must not depend on feeling good
and there is the dream of loneliness at absolute midnight.

You also have withdrawn belief in the present reality
of the future, which surely will surprise us,
and hope is harder when it cannot come by prediction
any more than by wishing. But stop dithering.

The young ask the old to hope. What will you tell them?
Tell them at least what you say to yourself.

Because we have not made our lives to fit
our places, the forests are ruined, the fields eroded,
the streams polluted, the mountains overturned. Hope
then to belong to your place by your own knowledge
of what it is that no other place is, and by
your caring for it as you care for no other place, this
place that you belong to though it is not yours,
for it was from the beginning and will be to the end.

Belong to your place by knowledge of the others who are
your neighbors in it: the old man, sick and poor,
who comes like a heron to fish in the creek,
and the fish in the creek, and the heron who manlike
fishes for the fish in the creek, and the birds who sing
in the trees in the silence of the fisherman
and the heron, and the trees that keep the land
they stand upon as we too must keep it, or die.

This knowledge cannot be taken from you by power
or by wealth. It will stop your ears to the powerful
when they ask for your faith, and to the wealthy
when they ask for your land and your work.
Answer with knowledge of the others who are here
and how to be here with them. By this knowledge
make the sense you need to make. By it stand
in the dignity of good sense, whatever may follow.

Speak to your fellow humans as your place
has taught you to speak, as it has spoken to you.
Speak its dialect as your old compatriots spoke it
before they had heard a radio. Speak
publicly what cannot be taught or learned in public.

Listen privately, silently to the voices that rise up
from the pages of books and from your own heart.
Be still and listen to the voices that belong
to the streambanks and the trees and the open fields.
There are songs and sayings that belong to this place,
by which it speaks for itself and no other.

Found your hope, then, on the ground under your feet.
Your hope of Heaven, let it rest on the ground
underfoot. Be it lighted by the light that falls
freely upon it after the darkness of the nights
and the darkness of our ignorance and madness.
Let it be lighted also by the light that is within you,
which is the light of imagination. By it you see
the likeness of people in other places to yourself
in your place. It lights invariably the need for care
toward other people, other creatures, in other places
as you would ask them for care toward your place and you.

No place at last is better than the world. The world
is no better than its places. Its places at last
are no better than their people while their people
continue in them. When the people make
dark the light within them, the world darkens.

P.S. – Click Here to listen to Ralph Fiennes’ beautiful reading of it.

For You

A recent article from Sahil Bloom talks about “Locus of Control.” Here’s an excerpt below…

Locus of Control is a psychological concept first introduced by Julian Rotter in 1954 that describes how people perceive the causes of events in their lives.

Those with an External Locus of Control believe that their outcomes are determined by forces outside their control.
Those with an Internal Locus of Control believe they have control over their outcomes through effort, focus, and attitude.
As it turns out, this one mindset—the simple lens through which you view your world—has an extraordinary array of implications.

An External Locus of Control has been linked to learned helplessness, victim mentality, and challenge avoidance.

An Internal Locus of Control has been linked to greater resilience, improved mental health, lower stress levels, higher achievement, and proactive problem-solving.

In other words, if you could bottle up Internal Locus of Control, it may well be the magic pill for success in any domain.

Here’s a simple shift to make:

Instead of viewing life as something that happens to you, start viewing it as something that happens for you.

When you do, everything will change for the better.