Let Them Help You

“He that has once done you a kindness will be more ready to do you another, than he whom you yourself have obliged.” -Ben Franklin

“Don’t be ashamed of needing help. You have a duty to fulfill just like a soldier on the wall of battle. So what if you are injured and can’t climb up without another soldier’s help?”—Marcus Aurelius, Meditations

“Think about someone in your life right now who has given a lot to you.
Have they ever asked you for anything?
If the answer is NO, you might likely think that everything is going great with them, but you could be wrong.
They actually may be going through a lot right now, but have not made it a point to reach out to you.
The fascinating truth about most advocates in our lives is that they often have a hard time advocating for themselves.” -Michael Roderick

Speaking of the art of asking…

When is the last time you asked someone for help?

If it’s been a while or never, why is that?

Do you fear rejection? Perhaps you don’t want to be perceived as anything less than completely self-reliant? Or maybe you just don’t want to bug people?

One of the greatest gifts you can give another person, especially a close friend or family member, is to simply allow them to help you. But you need to ask for it. And be specific.

So many people out there are waiting and wanting to help you.

Let them.

P.S. – This excellent Marginalian article on the “Benjamin Franklin Effect and How To Handle The Haters.”