Congruence

“The measure of a person is the congruence between their words and actions, their kindness, their confidence, and their decisiveness about who they are in the world and who they intend to remain.” -Peter Cundill

“In place of the term “realness” I have sometimes used the word “congruence.” By this I mean that when my experiencing of this moment is present in my awareness and when what is present in my awareness is present in my communication, then each of these three levels matches or is congruent. At such moments I am integrated or whole, I am completely in one piece. Most of the time, of course, I, like everyone else, exhibit some degree of incongruence. I have learned, however, that realness, or genuineness, or congruence—whatever term you wish to give it—is a fundamental basis for the best of communication.” -Carl Rogers, A Way Of Being

Some definitions of “congruence”:

-agreement or harmony; compatibility.

-The quality or state of agreeing, coinciding, or being congruent. The happy congruence of nature and reason.

-a match between psychological attributes and behavior.

Aspire to have your thoughts, words, and actions all working together. In alignment. In harmony. In congruence.

When you have this congruence, you will find inner peace. As well as evoke inner peace in others.