“Neugebauer’s notes to actors often take the form of questions. David Cromer, who played a bluff, sometimes bumbling character in The Waverly Gallery, recalled “a phrase she used all the time: ‘Does that resonate with you?’ ” He observed, “It gives you permission to respond.” Her ability to incorporate unstinting input may be why people frequently talk about how collaborative she is. It may also be how she always creates the sense, which every good director needs to do, that there is plenty of time.” -excerpt from a New Yorker profile on director, Lila Neugebauer
Speaking of letting them experiencing it…
Yes, if you’re planning to direct a play, you must be incredibly prepared, light years ahead of everyone else in terms of understanding the text and character motivations. But, rather than reveal your thoughts, analysis or “answers”, especially early on, ask questions. Lots and lots of questions. Have patience and trust (all the while guiding and nudging in the right direction) that your cast will get there. But you must allow them to discover, and more importantly, to own these discoveries.
It’s not about your “Aha!” moment. It’s about their “Aha!” moment. That’s the only way the actor’s understanding of their character will ever stick.
P.S. – This New Yorker profile of the director, Lila Neugebauer