“Why Didn’t They Ask Me?”

It’s tempting to wonder (especially if you’re an actor) when you find out about a particular project or production that’s happening…

“Why Didn’t They Ask Me?”

A few things that might help before you go down a bad F.O.M.O road…

(1) Turn the question around. “Did YOU ever ask for it?” Remember, if you don’t ask, you don’t get.

(2) If you didn’t ask for it, then why not? Do you really want it? Or are you just connected to the IDEA of it? (If you’re not sure, then you can follow Derek Sivers advice which is…If it’s not a “Hell Yeah!”, then it’s a “No.”)

If you didn’t really want it, be grateful you weren’t asked. You didn’t have to disappoint someone by turning them down.

(3) If you really did want it and are a little bit jealous, that’s a good thing. You’re actually excited about something. Follow that jealousy. Get curious with it. A potential passion project lurks.

(4) Feel empowered. Remind yourself that while institutional validation or getting picked is nice, it isn’t necessary. You and a burning desire to make the art you’re passionate about are enough.

(5) Wish the project and participants well. A generous spirit is a beautiful thing.